Breaking Through – The New York Times
In a meeting at the work of last week, my colleague told the story of how he recently brought his son, at the age of 17, to his first concert, Kim Deal at the Brooklyn Paramount. He was so enthusiastic about letting him jump his head, to introduce him to the magic of live music he had discovered at 15 when he went for the first time to a rock show. How nice, I thought, imagining his son, forever when he was asked “what was the first band you saw live?” Replying that he went with his mother to see a rock icon like Deal, bassist and frontwoman of the bands next to the pixies and breeders unquestionably. This caused everyone to the meeting revealing the first band they saw in concert.
Perhaps more than any other piece of personal curiosity, I find this fascinating. Learn about theirs The teenager has a flavor of music. If their parents took them, learn something about their childhood. (“Oh, he had the type of parents who took their 6 -year -old boy to see Steel Dan!”) The first concerts of my colleagues were impressive: Duran Duran, Rem on the “Monster” tour. Mine was the English rock band Squeeze, 15 years old, third row, Madison Square Garden.
And people love to tell you about their first concerts. It is a box of jewelry of a question, an invitation to reveal something unique on oneself, to tell a well -practiced personal story. They can transmit as much or a little on your tastes as you feel comfortable: “See, I have always been beautiful” or “God, look at what I was a dork.” It is the perfect champion of that most insulted form of corporate order gaming activities: the Rompigias.
In the last few days I have conducted a non -scientific but completely convincing study on the feelings of my friends on the breaking roars. Everyone, for a person, hate them. I understand. In the face, Team Building exercises of any kind should be treated with suspicion. The Rompigiaccio are intended to loosen people. How much, one might ask yourself wisely, is it always appropriate to get to work? We are going around the table by saying our favorite breakfast cereals, quite harmless enough, but I’m not sure I want to reveal something more intimate than that for the entire marketing department.
But, however sudden how they can be in a working context (is there something more humiliating than trying to evoke “a fun fact on yourself”?)? Well Icebreaker as a delicious connection for measured intimacy. In a past job where I organized a weekly staff meeting, I started each meeting with a breach. A good part of my team was remote, before the remote work was normal, and it seemed impossible that we would feel comfortable with each other without a sort of trivial intervention. I could delude myself, but once the team members met a bit, the Rompigiaccio became a fun game game, a way to get closer, to remind ourselves that we were interesting and dynamic human beings even in the working place matrix.
Looking back to my breaks from those weekly meetings, I see in my well -known questions that I have no idea how the people closest to me would have answered and I am attempted to ask them. Some of these questions were created, some came from the writer Rob Walkers’ newsletter “The art of noticing”, Some came from the team. “What’s the first thing you bought with your money?” “What were you doing at 23 years old?” “What is something in which you are good but I hate doing?” “What are the most common things that people tell when you tell them your hometown?”
It might seem embarrassing or artificially asking these questions in the middle of a normal conversation, but it could be fun to deliberately ask for a breach of your family, or a group of friends on whom you think you know everything or your spouse. For those of us who include the usefulness of the chatter but deplore the slow and inefficient ramp of the questions of knowledge: where do you come, what do you do, some brothers? – The Rompigias do exactly what they claim. You can wait for the ice to melt, or you can simply destroy it with a question that comes to something a little interesting, a little detector. And you don’t have to call them doors. Outside a company framework, the Rompigiaccio are only manifestations of curiosity. What do you really want to know about the person you’re talking to? Why not ask?
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Earl Gray Tea Cake
For a not too sweet dessert that will keep well until the week, there is wet and tender of Samantha Seneviratne Earl Gray Tea Cake with dark chocolate and orange zest. Its thin floral perfume of the Citro comes from loose tea leaves mixed with the buttery cake batter, which is also freely stained with chopped dark chocolate. Serve thick wedges after dinner or for a snack in mid -afternoon, preferably accompanied by a pot of Earl Gray tea.
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Game of the week
Notre Dame vs. TCU, female NCAA tournament: The last three seasons of Notre Dame have ended in the sweet round of sixteen. Can you avoid the same fate this year? The Irish defense was fantastic, thanks largely to Hannah Hidalgo, the defensive player of the year of the Ecc. But TCU’s offense can be difficult to stop when Hailey Van Lith makes her Pick-and-Roll game go with Sedona Prince. Today at 13:00 Eastern on Espn
