Can I refuse to contribute to a gift for a colleague I dislike?
Is it good to refuse to make a contribution? I think it implicit throughout your story is the answer to this question: no. With this, I mean that if there was a way to say that you don’t want to start by keeping your secret, you would have already found it. In the same way, if I were sure I can get by without saying anything – and simply not that he has not contributed – you would not ask for it.
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The obvious alternative is to say to the organizer of the collection, “I would like, but …” However, I have the meaning from your longest e-mail that the facade you have kept so masterfully for all this time has nothing to do with the false affection or the two-sided fake; Instead it is a form of rigorous neutrality.
Not gives any public indication that you don’t like this person, but also nobody you like or agree with their methods. For this reason, you would seem to betray your principles by keeping your nose, pretending to admire your colleague and then explain your non-counterpoy with an elaborate falsehood. Or worse, I’m just making a contribution.
So my advice would be to focus on the payment mechanism rather than thinking about apologies or prevalence. He recommends to those who organize the gift that if they want to go with a digital contribution system, it should be anonymous.
Instead of people who put money in a single bank account, in which the organizer can see individual names and amounts, they suggest that they use one of the numerous gift contribution apps designed thinking about discretion.
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You will have to pretend that your advice has nothing to do with the protection of your interests. Instead, you could say that your concern is for all colleagues who could try pressure to contribute more than they can afford if the system makes it obvious who contributed with what.
It is true that this is a form of deception. And I usually do not recommend being dishonest Work therapy. But in this case, I think it makes sense. It is really just a continuation of your long -term strategy to avoid showing your hand. At the same time, it reduces the probability that anyone who feels clouded, gets angry or even asking difficult questions.
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